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Kristen Welker is the rational friend we all need

Why Kristen Welker is the epitome of poise and grace that we all need in our lives when dealing with conflict

Kristen Welker is the rational friend we all need

NBC News anchor Kristen Welker moderating the final presidential debate

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Within our friend groups (and other acquaintanceships), we've all experienced at least one situation where we've bumped heads because of deferring and downright uncouth, biased opinions, right?

If you answered yes to that question, you might also agree that there's always another friend on neutral ground that can act as a mediator in times of strife as Kristen Welker did at the la presidential debate last night between Donald Trump and Joe Biden.

As Donald Trump and Joe Biden clashed over the coronavirus pandemic and systemic racism in the country, many would go on to agree that Welker was the epitome of grace and attentiveness in the situation at hand ( this debate was much calmer than the first presidential debate in Cleveland).

When Welker would ask questions, she would rarely let Trump change the trajectory of the course of the debate ( she would brush off his phony "excuse me's" with the "you have 10 seconds to speak") or drown out Biden's answers, while standing her ground and enforcing the rules which were well-received by spectators.

See the photo evidence below that encapsulates this moderation all too well:


It is also known that this neutral and rational type of person can also be criticized for not "necessarily having a position" just like Trump spewing baseless claims about her literally days before the debate calling her "terrible and unfair, just like the rest of the fake news" and then turning around to say, "so far I respect very much the way you're handling this,"( this screams 'fake friend' to me!) when she gave him time to respond to Biden at one point.

Also, just like the friend in the middle listening to both sides of a story, she presented the opportunity to Trump and Biden to talk directly in this case about Black Americans and the racial inequality and systemic racism that they face daily and how they would assist those issues. Both men said that they understood the challenges Black people face in the country, but like typical 'friends' in menacing disagreement, they ended up blasting each other.

Trump put all the blame on Biden as the singular force behind mass incarceration of "young Black men", further declaring himself as the least racist person in the room, reiterating "nobody has done what I've done for Black Americans with the exception of Abraham Lincoln, a possible exception". In complete and utter disbelief, Biden called Trump a "racist" pouring fuel on every single racist fire".

How Welker was able to keep her composure with some of the most bogus statements ( I won't say who the comments are from, but his last name starts with a "T") is indicative of someone who will let you say what you need to say then tells you what's right, wrong, or needs clarification, just like an emotionally evolved friend.

Who wouldn't want a calm, cool, and collected person in their lives to encourage the air of maturity?

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