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The important life lessons I was taught way too late

There are several lessons in life that we won't be able to know until we encounter these situations for ourselves.

The important life lessons I was taught way too late
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Life is filled with many moments to build experiences and perspectives. Throughout this time, many of us will end up rising and excelling at everything we do, or sometimes we fall.

Some lessons are learned through lived experience, while others are learned by watching or reading things in newspapers and books.

As much as we can learn from books, there is a fundamental difference between theoretical and practical experiences.With that in mind, there are several lessons in life that we won't know until we encounter these situations for ourselves.


Additionally, other people (including me) would say that some lessons learned come later on in life, catching us by surprise and leaving us unprepared and a bit worried. But don't fret!

Read on to uncover some of the vital life lessons that I learned later on in life. But upon discovering them, my life has improved for the better.

1.We all have our own paths—embrace it!

Oftentimes, people are quick to judge others for loads of things. The judgment can sometimes make you feel that the path you're on, such as becoming a doctor or becoming an author of books, is not worth it, steering you away from your goals in life. But guess what? Your goal is still worth pursuing! We all have our own aspirations in life. Don't let the naysayers bring you down. The choice is always up to you.

2.It's ok to have flexibility with your goals

There's absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to help somebody understand their situation a bit better if they are unclear or just trying to be supportive. However, this same act can also redo down a rabbit hole of misunderstandings from others that think you're trying to control them.

3. Don't hesitate on things you shouldn't

At times, we don't act on what we want because we don't have the confidence or the willpower to do so. This hesitation holds us back from moving forward into our purpose, caging us away. Whenever you feel deep in your gut that you should do something, do it. It doesn't matter what the outcome is. You will end up being stronger in the end.

4. Don't be discouraged from "failures"

Even if you didn't get a 100 per cent on the exam or you didn't get the job you applied for, don't worry. It probably wasn't meant for you at the moment. Just continue to grind, and eventually, you will achieve what you want!

5. Applying learned experiences to aspects of our lives

It doesn't matter how much we think we know about a subject. Only after we apply our knowledge can we assess how much we know. Certainly, we all could read how to play the piano, learning to read the notes are in treble and bass clef. But it's not until we sit in front of a piano that our knowledge is really tested.As Johann Wolfgang von Goethe said: "Knowing is not enough; we must apply. Willing is not enough; we must do."

6. Good things don't always come easy

Luck at times can only get you so far in life. To really get to a certain level of success and satisfaction within yourself, you have to work hard and put in the effort. Also, don't depend on anyone to be as dedicated to your vision as you are.

7. It's ok to give advice but don't be overbearing

There's absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to help somebody understand their situation a bit better if they are unclear or just trying to be supportive. However, this same act can also redo down a rabbit hole of misunderstandings from others that think you're trying to control them.

Let me give you an example.

One time, I had advised a friend of mine who didn't necessarily ask for guidance on a romantic relationship, but I still said something anyway.

This essentially put me in hot water because my friend believed I was judging when I was only trying to help.I say all this to say that sometimes it's best to let people come and ask you for help, then you go out of your way to do something so that way you don't come off intrusive.

8. Take care of your health overall

While young, it's easy to neglect your health when you feel and appear fine. However, consuming fast food, drinking in excess, and smoking can take a severe toll on health.Make regular visits to the doctor and live as clean as possible to avoid health ailments.

9. Everything that we do may have an opposite reaction

Always think about the consequences of things you may do or say, no matter your intention. Mindfulness is key!

10. Make the most of every moment in your life

We all know variations of the saying, life flashes before you in the blink of an eye. In my late teens to early twenties, There were many moments such as taking an unexpected trip to Japan or exploring a different borough in New York City by myself that I passed up out of fear.

But now, in my mid-twenties, I realized that I have to take more risks in my life and enjoy things that come my way. After all, living life to the fullest is ideal because you never know what tomorrow will bring.

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