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Mirror, mirror on the wall: How I learned to love myself

Photo by Gina Holzer
Photo by Gina Holzer

Have you ever looked in the mirror and wished your body was slimmer, skin was clearer, face was shaped differently, or just wished you looked different overall?

Yeah, that was me.

Growing up, I wish I looked different, better, and as 'good as the other girls'. Comparison was one of my specialties, and I always compared myself to the perception of what I thought beauty was supposed to be. You know, the elusive perception that society and the media have conditioned us to believe that there is and can only be one definition of beauty.

This feeling of wanting to change how I looked stemmed from me not being satisfied with what my genetics gave me. I dreamed of having clear skin, smaller pores, thicker hair, longer lashes, a taller nose – the list goes on.

Due to these insecurities, I never left the house (or even answered the door) without an ounce of makeup. This was my way of covering up my 'flaws' to have somewhat more confidence (I never let anyone see me in my bare skin). I spent a decade searching for a solution I hoped would improve my skin, grow my hair and eyebrows thicker, and would make me feel whole and good about myself both inside and out.

I tried almost everything, from topical products to vitamins and even changing my diet, but nothing I tried gave me the results I wanted for so long. The type that would bestow confidence in my own bare skin. Almost on the verge of giving up, I was adamant about finding something that had to work, which is when I began to research and experiment with different supplements in my New York City apartment. I bought loads of ingredients, blended them based on scientific research, and tested them on myself over a period of time.

If I didn't see improvements in one to two months, I would go back to the drawing board and blend new supplements to test again. After I blended and started taking a formula that contained collagen, biotin and silica, I noticed improvements in my skin and hair after about two months (I was shocked!).

For the first time in my decade long search, I finally saw results in my skin, health, and hair growth. Not only did my skin and hair improve, but my immune system also strengthened significantly to the point where I stopped getting sick throughout the year, which was something that used to happen at least two to three times per year (collagen helps line your gut, which can improve your health and immunity overall).


Photo by Gina HolzerPhoto by Gina Holzer

That's when I knew I wanted to share my experience and the knowledge I didn't have before with others, to help them improve themselves to reach a point of comfortability and happiness in their own skin. From a young age, we're conditioned to perceive beauty as a standard that seems inconceivable. What we're used to seeing isn't real most of the time, such as photoshop or synthetic alteration.

After my journey, I began to realize that being beautiful isn't about looking the best; it's about looking your best because comparison is unrealistic. Perfection is only an illusion, but working on improving what you do have is real and can lead the way to true happiness and self-love. It was then that I accepted myself for who I was and how I looked for the very first time in my life.

I became proud of who I was and loved everything about myself, including the areas that I still don't like up to this day. You don't need to love everything about yourself to be happy, but you need to accept yourself and respect your body and happiness enough to work on the areas you can improve on. We're all human, and we're all different,which makes us beautiful.

No one other than yourself can define your beauty and how it makes you feel. Beauty doesn't have a definition, shape, or standard. Beauty is defined within ourselves, and only we can define beauty and how that makes us feel. Feeling beautiful isn't about how thin you are, how big your eyes are, or how long your lashes are, but instead, beauty is already in you – you have to seek that out and let that shine. That's when I started Wholy Dose, a company devoted to helping others find happiness and confidence in themselves.

Wholy Dose's products help improve yourself instead of hiding or changing who you are. Our products are rooted in holistic beauty and health, and we have supplements with clinically-proven ingredients that help you feel your best from the inside and out without compromising the means of getting there.

Our mission is to help people achieve self-love by supplementing the natural beautifying properties that your body already creates. We're here to help bring that out through supplementation and the power of nourishing your body with the right ingredients.


Wholy Dose cacao beauty superfood powder Photo by Gina Holzer


Now, when I look in the mirror, I accept myself and appreciate who I am — on both my good and bad days —instead of comparing myself to what I wished I looked like.

Check out Wholy Dose's website and social media accounts for recipes, inspiration and wellness tips.

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    Women founders continue to come up against common challenges and biases

    Written by Kelly Devine, Division President UK & Ireland, Mastercard

    Starting a business may have historically been perceived as a man’s game, but this couldn’t be further from reality. Research shows women are actually more likely than men to actively choose to start their own business – often motivated by the desire to be their own boss or to have a better work-life balance and spend more time with their family.

    The recently published Mastercard Index of Women Entrepreneurship 2021 found that in the category of 'Aspiration Driven Entrepreneurship’ – capturing those who actively choose to start their own business – women in the UK surpass men: 60% vs 56%. And Mastercard research from February 2022 found 10% of female business owners started their business in the past two years compared to 6% of men – meaning women were 67% more likely to have started a business during the pandemic.

    Yet, there are common challenges that women founders continue to come up against - not least the gender imbalance in the household and long-held biases which are still prevalent.

    In the UK, women are almost three times more likely to be balancing care and home commitments than men, and this was exacerbated during the pandemic as the additional barriers of school closures and lockdowns meant that the care time of dependents rose significantly on a day-to-day level for women. In addition, women were less likely to have access to a home office, greatly impacting the work they were able to accomplish when working from home was the only option.

    It's also widely known that female business owners are still more likely to struggle to access funding for their business ideas. According to Dealroom, all-women founding teams received just 1.4% of the €23.7bn invested into UK start-ups in 2021, while all-male leadership teams have taken almost 90% of the available capital.

    Without financial support, and when juggling significant time pressures both at home and at work, how can women grow their companies and #BreaktheBias (as this year’s International Women’s Day termed it)? What tools or support can save them time and money, and give them the headspace they need to focus on building their business?

    With female owned businesses collectively estimating revenue growth of £120 billion over the next five years, solving this problem is bigger than supporting women – it’s about supporting the national economy.

    Using tech to level the playing field

    There are clearly societal issues at play that need to be resolved. But when we look at the rise in technology businesses during the pandemic, we can plainly see an alternative source of support critical for business growth: digital tools.

    A third of female business owners say new technologies will be crucial to the success of their business in the future and one in five say it is the most important thing for business growth.

    With new technology comes new ways to pay, create, and work. And yet there are barriers that prevent business owners accessing this technology. Women are significantly more likely to say they want to use more digital tools but don’t know what is best for their business and also more concerned about the security of digital tools.

    When technology is adopted by businesses – whether using online accounting solutions or messenger services for communicating with staff – it saves them time, allows them to maintain and grow their customer base, and ultimately increases cost savings and profit.

    By drastically improving the training and support that is available to women-owned business to access and utilise technology we will allow these businesses to grow and succeed. And we know there is demand for it.

    Research done by the IFC and Dalberg shows that female entrepreneurs are more likely to invest time and money in business development. This includes product development, customer base expansion, and digital tools and training and there are plenty of services available offering this type of support – many of them for free.

    One such programme is Strive UK – an initiative of the Mastercard Center for Inclusive Growth – which aims to reach 650,000 micro and small business owners across the UK and empower them with the tools they need to thrive in the digital economy through free guidance, helpful tools and one-to-one mentoring.

    Working together with small business experts – Enterprise Nation, Be the Business and Digital Boost – we hope to ensure hundreds of thousands of UK female business owners have the tools they need to succeed and reach their ambitious goals. Because this ambition remains strong in the UK, with female business owners largely optimistic about the future despite the multitude of challenges they are facing. Four in ten say they will grow their business in the next five years – compared to only a third of male business owners – and they’re also 35% less likely than men to say they plan to downsize or close the business.

    But if we do not empower female entrepreneurs to access the tools and technology they need to grow, there is a risk this optimism could be misplaced. Support programmes that provide business owners with guidance and mentorship can help ensure this isn’t the case, allowing female entrepreneurs to not only survive but thrive in the months and years ahead.