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As Mother’s Day is upon us, let’s consider the great job we've done

Cheers to mums everywhere
Photo by Lauren Nolan

Mother's Day is on Sunday! And like everywhere, mums have had a tough year. But maybe, just for the day, we should raise a glass and consider what a great job we've done.

We can support each other in the future when we are allowed to attend baby groups, classes, parties, soft plays, school functions, and everything in between. Here's a couple of stories about the impact we have on other parents.

Once I was at a soft play, Frank was nearly two and going through that phase where they want to do everything independently. He was insistent that he could go down the big slide by himself, and after trying in vain to coax him onto my lap to go down, I relented and let him slide down alone.

Also, I was pregnant at the time and worried I might get stuck. From the bottom of the slide, I watched in horror as he lost his bottle and tried to turn around and ended up tumbling down, hitting his head on the hard plastic a couple of times. I picked him up at the bottom and after a few moments of that weird, open-mouth silent cry they do, he started screaming.

And I mean real, proper screaming. The whole place went into a hushed silence (seriously I've never heard a soft play that quiet). It was clear pretty quickly that Frank was fine; it was more the shock I think, and moments later he wanted to run off on his own again.

But I felt mortified and I could feel my cheeks were red hot. I felt like every parent in there was wondering why I had let this little boy go down that big slide alone. I decided to leave and was stuffing my various baby paraphernalia into my giant changing bag (I do not miss that thing) when a lady approached me.

She said, "I made the same mistake with that slide when my kid was the same age; it's deceptively fast isn't it? He seems fine, are you OK?" Such a small act, she probably didn't realise how much it meant to me. It was just so kind of her, it stopped me from spiralling, and I was so grateful at that moment I almost cried.

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Fast forward a bit and I'm in another soft play, this time with a crying newborn in my arms. I was trying to coax Frank out from the very top and he was not coming down. I had already tried bribery and it wasn't working.

While I was weighing up my options (should I leave the crying baby in the pram or attempt to climb up with him?!) a lady offered to go get him, and she climbed and crawled up and brought him down for me (after a bit of persuasion).

She was an angel that day.

I didn't know her, she was just a lovely mum who saw I needed help.

Another time I went to a swim class with baby Bill. This time the mums weren't so kind. We were all in a changing room together, it was small and the babies were all fussing while getting their little wetsuits on. It quickly became clear all the mums in there knew each other already (NCT group I think) but hey - I'm friendly.

I have a baby the same age. I like talking to people and since I was stripping off in front of them, I figured I may as well make some small talk. It did not go well.

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Honestly, it was so cliquey I thought I was back in my all-girls secondary school; they fully ignored me. It was rude but also baffling to me. I wasn't inviting them around for cocktails or asking them to babysit. I was only saying hello. As Bill was my second baby and I was more used to being a parent, it didn't bother me too much.

But I can imagine a new mum might have been rocked by that; she might have been nervous about swimming with a tiny baby, she might not have known any other mums. Those women being a bit cold could have put a mum off coming back next week.

And this isn't an isolated incident. Some mum groups are friendlier and more open to newbies than others. You have to go group to group to find your tribe or at least a group that you can have a cup of tea and a natter with without being shunned.

That small act of kindness in the soft play was the difference between me sobbing in the car park or not. I carried on with swimming but I didn't try and talk to those women again. If you're a parent, it's impossible to tell how your smile, or sympathetic words, or little bit of help could impact someone else's day.

When we are allowed to mix with other parents again we could all be there for each other in a million small ways, and after what has passed this year - we all need it.

My experiences as a mother are full of times when other mums lifted me up and made me feel less alone, made me laugh, or gave me a hand when I needed it. I am lucky to count some extraordinary women as my "mum friends" who constantly amaze me with their strength and kindness (and I like being around them).

On this Mother's Day, I hope those mums are enjoying a lie in and later a glass of wine and some chocolate. You are all golden, and we need each other more than we know.

Women founders continue to come up against common challenges and biases

Written by Kelly Devine, Division President UK & Ireland, Mastercard

Starting a business may have historically been perceived as a man’s game, but this couldn’t be further from reality. Research shows women are actually more likely than men to actively choose to start their own business – often motivated by the desire to be their own boss or to have a better work-life balance and spend more time with their family.

The recently published Mastercard Index of Women Entrepreneurship 2021 found that in the category of 'Aspiration Driven Entrepreneurship’ – capturing those who actively choose to start their own business – women in the UK surpass men: 60% vs 56%. And Mastercard research from February 2022 found 10% of female business owners started their business in the past two years compared to 6% of men – meaning women were 67% more likely to have started a business during the pandemic.

Yet, there are common challenges that women founders continue to come up against - not least the gender imbalance in the household and long-held biases which are still prevalent.

In the UK, women are almost three times more likely to be balancing care and home commitments than men, and this was exacerbated during the pandemic as the additional barriers of school closures and lockdowns meant that the care time of dependents rose significantly on a day-to-day level for women. In addition, women were less likely to have access to a home office, greatly impacting the work they were able to accomplish when working from home was the only option.

It's also widely known that female business owners are still more likely to struggle to access funding for their business ideas. According to Dealroom, all-women founding teams received just 1.4% of the €23.7bn invested into UK start-ups in 2021, while all-male leadership teams have taken almost 90% of the available capital.

Without financial support, and when juggling significant time pressures both at home and at work, how can women grow their companies and #BreaktheBias (as this year’s International Women’s Day termed it)? What tools or support can save them time and money, and give them the headspace they need to focus on building their business?

With female owned businesses collectively estimating revenue growth of £120 billion over the next five years, solving this problem is bigger than supporting women – it’s about supporting the national economy.

Using tech to level the playing field

There are clearly societal issues at play that need to be resolved. But when we look at the rise in technology businesses during the pandemic, we can plainly see an alternative source of support critical for business growth: digital tools.

A third of female business owners say new technologies will be crucial to the success of their business in the future and one in five say it is the most important thing for business growth.

With new technology comes new ways to pay, create, and work. And yet there are barriers that prevent business owners accessing this technology. Women are significantly more likely to say they want to use more digital tools but don’t know what is best for their business and also more concerned about the security of digital tools.

When technology is adopted by businesses – whether using online accounting solutions or messenger services for communicating with staff – it saves them time, allows them to maintain and grow their customer base, and ultimately increases cost savings and profit.

By drastically improving the training and support that is available to women-owned business to access and utilise technology we will allow these businesses to grow and succeed. And we know there is demand for it.

Research done by the IFC and Dalberg shows that female entrepreneurs are more likely to invest time and money in business development. This includes product development, customer base expansion, and digital tools and training and there are plenty of services available offering this type of support – many of them for free.

One such programme is Strive UK – an initiative of the Mastercard Center for Inclusive Growth – which aims to reach 650,000 micro and small business owners across the UK and empower them with the tools they need to thrive in the digital economy through free guidance, helpful tools and one-to-one mentoring.

Working together with small business experts – Enterprise Nation, Be the Business and Digital Boost – we hope to ensure hundreds of thousands of UK female business owners have the tools they need to succeed and reach their ambitious goals. Because this ambition remains strong in the UK, with female business owners largely optimistic about the future despite the multitude of challenges they are facing. Four in ten say they will grow their business in the next five years – compared to only a third of male business owners – and they’re also 35% less likely than men to say they plan to downsize or close the business.

But if we do not empower female entrepreneurs to access the tools and technology they need to grow, there is a risk this optimism could be misplaced. Support programmes that provide business owners with guidance and mentorship can help ensure this isn’t the case, allowing female entrepreneurs to not only survive but thrive in the months and years ahead.