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Harry Styles and Taylor Swift teach us a lesson in exes remaining friendly after a bad breakup

Laura Sisk, Taylor Swift, Jack Antonoff, and Aaron Dessner accept the Album of the Year award for 'Folklore' onstage during the 63rd Annual GRAMMY Awards at Los Angeles Convention Center on March 14, 2021 in Los Angeles, California.
(Photo by Kevin Winter/Getty Images for The Recording Academy)

Can exes remain friends after a breakup? It's a polarizing question that continues to resound in every individual's minds since the dawn of time. Alright, maybe not every individual. There are those who can think of other things besides relationships. But it is a puzzling question nevertheless, especially if the relationship ended badly.

Case and point: Taylor Swift and Harry Styles.

During Sunday's 63rd Annual Grammy Awards, Swift and Styles were filmed animatedly conversing with one another backstage, and judging from their body language, there appears to be no "bad blood" between the two. See what I did there? Although it's unclear from the video what the two are saying, Swift and Styles exchanged smiles and laughs, proving that perhaps exes can remain friendly after a bd split.

I, on the other hand, still have doubts.

In addition, Swift was also filmed applauding Styles, nodding in his direction after his performance of "Watermelon Sugar." The two briefly dated between 2012-2013, and this is the first time they were seen conversing in public since. Their split reportedly ended on bad terms, and it's alleged that much of Swift's 5th album "1989" was inspired by Styles.

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Both Swift and Styles are currently dating other people: Swift has been dating British actor Joe Alwyn for over four years, while Styles is reportedly dating actress Olivia Wilde. After making history as the first woman to win a Grammy for Album of the Year three times, Swift gave a sweet shout out Alwyn.

"Joe, who is the first person that I play every single song that I write, and I had the best time writing songs with you in quarantine," she said during her acceptance speech.

During her Apple TV special, folklore: The Long Pond Sessions, Swift revealed Alwyn wrote two songs on folklore, "exile" and "betty," under the pseudonym William Bowery. During an interview with Howard Stern, Styles opened up about how flattered he was Swift wrote about their relationship on 1989.

"I think about what it means to me to write a song about somebody else and for somebody else to do that, it's like flattering, even if the song isn't that flattering, you still spent time on it and ultimately, using Taylor as an example, she's a great songwriter. So at least they're good songs," Styles said.

Taylor Swift was not a fan of that 'Ginny and Georgia' "deeply sexist" jokeconversations.indy100.com

So there you have it.

Perhaps the magic to remaining friends after a breakup lies with time, and allowing it to heal your scars. Then again, I wouldn't know considering I've never remained friends with any of my exes. The way I see it, once a relationship ends, it's best to collect yourself and move on. Wish them well, but never look back.

But everyone's different, and you have to admire Swift's and Styles' growth.

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Women founders continue to come up against common challenges and biases

Written by Kelly Devine, Division President UK & Ireland, Mastercard

Starting a business may have historically been perceived as a man’s game, but this couldn’t be further from reality. Research shows women are actually more likely than men to actively choose to start their own business – often motivated by the desire to be their own boss or to have a better work-life balance and spend more time with their family.

The recently published Mastercard Index of Women Entrepreneurship 2021 found that in the category of 'Aspiration Driven Entrepreneurship’ – capturing those who actively choose to start their own business – women in the UK surpass men: 60% vs 56%. And Mastercard research from February 2022 found 10% of female business owners started their business in the past two years compared to 6% of men – meaning women were 67% more likely to have started a business during the pandemic.

Yet, there are common challenges that women founders continue to come up against - not least the gender imbalance in the household and long-held biases which are still prevalent.

In the UK, women are almost three times more likely to be balancing care and home commitments than men, and this was exacerbated during the pandemic as the additional barriers of school closures and lockdowns meant that the care time of dependents rose significantly on a day-to-day level for women. In addition, women were less likely to have access to a home office, greatly impacting the work they were able to accomplish when working from home was the only option.

It's also widely known that female business owners are still more likely to struggle to access funding for their business ideas. According to Dealroom, all-women founding teams received just 1.4% of the €23.7bn invested into UK start-ups in 2021, while all-male leadership teams have taken almost 90% of the available capital.

Without financial support, and when juggling significant time pressures both at home and at work, how can women grow their companies and #BreaktheBias (as this year’s International Women’s Day termed it)? What tools or support can save them time and money, and give them the headspace they need to focus on building their business?

With female owned businesses collectively estimating revenue growth of £120 billion over the next five years, solving this problem is bigger than supporting women – it’s about supporting the national economy.

Using tech to level the playing field

There are clearly societal issues at play that need to be resolved. But when we look at the rise in technology businesses during the pandemic, we can plainly see an alternative source of support critical for business growth: digital tools.

A third of female business owners say new technologies will be crucial to the success of their business in the future and one in five say it is the most important thing for business growth.

With new technology comes new ways to pay, create, and work. And yet there are barriers that prevent business owners accessing this technology. Women are significantly more likely to say they want to use more digital tools but don’t know what is best for their business and also more concerned about the security of digital tools.

When technology is adopted by businesses – whether using online accounting solutions or messenger services for communicating with staff – it saves them time, allows them to maintain and grow their customer base, and ultimately increases cost savings and profit.

By drastically improving the training and support that is available to women-owned business to access and utilise technology we will allow these businesses to grow and succeed. And we know there is demand for it.

Research done by the IFC and Dalberg shows that female entrepreneurs are more likely to invest time and money in business development. This includes product development, customer base expansion, and digital tools and training and there are plenty of services available offering this type of support – many of them for free.

One such programme is Strive UK – an initiative of the Mastercard Center for Inclusive Growth – which aims to reach 650,000 micro and small business owners across the UK and empower them with the tools they need to thrive in the digital economy through free guidance, helpful tools and one-to-one mentoring.

Working together with small business experts – Enterprise Nation, Be the Business and Digital Boost – we hope to ensure hundreds of thousands of UK female business owners have the tools they need to succeed and reach their ambitious goals. Because this ambition remains strong in the UK, with female business owners largely optimistic about the future despite the multitude of challenges they are facing. Four in ten say they will grow their business in the next five years – compared to only a third of male business owners – and they’re also 35% less likely than men to say they plan to downsize or close the business.

But if we do not empower female entrepreneurs to access the tools and technology they need to grow, there is a risk this optimism could be misplaced. Support programmes that provide business owners with guidance and mentorship can help ensure this isn’t the case, allowing female entrepreneurs to not only survive but thrive in the months and years ahead.