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The best - but most confusing - dating trend that emerged in 2020

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Dating apps are constantly evolving, whether it's new ones popping up promising love or old favourites updating their offerings. As someone who has used them on and off over the years, I've seen them go from basic 'swipe left swipe right' to in-depth questions and match-making software.

But in 2020, I have noticed a new trend emerging, one that makes me feel like I'm both living in the past and future all at once.

Given the obvious, we are all inside an awful lot more. For the most part, we can't meet new people or go out to bars unless we can cope with sitting in the freezing cold. This led to many apps evolving, adding video chat features, some even sending notifications suggesting you try a good old fashioned phone call instead of a date. Personally, I did a bit of this earlier in the pandemic. Dressed up on top, pyjamas on bottom, fake-smiling through a few pretty painful Facetime calls. But, just as I got tired of baking bread and painting geometric shapes on my wall, this too grew old.

Over recent months, however, one new trend has managed to stick - voice notes. Back and forth they go, little capsules of a person you may never meet, and, in many ways, it's perfect. First and foremost, you don't have the hassle of getting dressed up for a video chat in your own home.

But you also get a much truer sense of who someone is in comparison to texting. Jokes come across better, a bit of light flirting is certainly easier, and it bizarrely seems more romantic. There is something so paradoxically futuristic and archaic about it; I feel like a character in HER talking to a computer and a Bennet sister sending love letters at the same time.

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What comes to mind when you think about love?

One of the biggest criticisms of most dating apps is how superficial they are. Yes, the most popular ones include a lot more information about your potential match these days, but ultimately it is still heavily picture-based. With voice notes, I often forget what the people even look like, instead engaging in actual conversations.

But here lies the confusion. With this level of intimacy, you inevitably create a picture in your mind of who that person is, and I don't just mean their appearance. When texting someone before meeting, having seen just a couple of blurry photos of them holding a fish, there is so much mystery and far fewer expectations. With this new trend, I've experienced voice notes. A clearer image of that person as a whole is formed before you even go for a drink with them - and if they don't live up to those expectations it can be even more crushing.

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Blow me one last kiss

Despite this, there is still something sweet and personal about this new communication that has blossomed. So, fellow singletons, if you're in the dating app world finding it too sterile and impersonal, I wholeheartedly recommend trying voice notes.

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Women founders continue to come up against common challenges and biases

Written by Kelly Devine, Division President UK & Ireland, Mastercard

Starting a business may have historically been perceived as a man’s game, but this couldn’t be further from reality. Research shows women are actually more likely than men to actively choose to start their own business – often motivated by the desire to be their own boss or to have a better work-life balance and spend more time with their family.

The recently published Mastercard Index of Women Entrepreneurship 2021 found that in the category of 'Aspiration Driven Entrepreneurship’ – capturing those who actively choose to start their own business – women in the UK surpass men: 60% vs 56%. And Mastercard research from February 2022 found 10% of female business owners started their business in the past two years compared to 6% of men – meaning women were 67% more likely to have started a business during the pandemic.

Yet, there are common challenges that women founders continue to come up against - not least the gender imbalance in the household and long-held biases which are still prevalent.

In the UK, women are almost three times more likely to be balancing care and home commitments than men, and this was exacerbated during the pandemic as the additional barriers of school closures and lockdowns meant that the care time of dependents rose significantly on a day-to-day level for women. In addition, women were less likely to have access to a home office, greatly impacting the work they were able to accomplish when working from home was the only option.

It's also widely known that female business owners are still more likely to struggle to access funding for their business ideas. According to Dealroom, all-women founding teams received just 1.4% of the €23.7bn invested into UK start-ups in 2021, while all-male leadership teams have taken almost 90% of the available capital.

Without financial support, and when juggling significant time pressures both at home and at work, how can women grow their companies and #BreaktheBias (as this year’s International Women’s Day termed it)? What tools or support can save them time and money, and give them the headspace they need to focus on building their business?

With female owned businesses collectively estimating revenue growth of £120 billion over the next five years, solving this problem is bigger than supporting women – it’s about supporting the national economy.

Using tech to level the playing field

There are clearly societal issues at play that need to be resolved. But when we look at the rise in technology businesses during the pandemic, we can plainly see an alternative source of support critical for business growth: digital tools.

A third of female business owners say new technologies will be crucial to the success of their business in the future and one in five say it is the most important thing for business growth.

With new technology comes new ways to pay, create, and work. And yet there are barriers that prevent business owners accessing this technology. Women are significantly more likely to say they want to use more digital tools but don’t know what is best for their business and also more concerned about the security of digital tools.

When technology is adopted by businesses – whether using online accounting solutions or messenger services for communicating with staff – it saves them time, allows them to maintain and grow their customer base, and ultimately increases cost savings and profit.

By drastically improving the training and support that is available to women-owned business to access and utilise technology we will allow these businesses to grow and succeed. And we know there is demand for it.

Research done by the IFC and Dalberg shows that female entrepreneurs are more likely to invest time and money in business development. This includes product development, customer base expansion, and digital tools and training and there are plenty of services available offering this type of support – many of them for free.

One such programme is Strive UK – an initiative of the Mastercard Center for Inclusive Growth – which aims to reach 650,000 micro and small business owners across the UK and empower them with the tools they need to thrive in the digital economy through free guidance, helpful tools and one-to-one mentoring.

Working together with small business experts – Enterprise Nation, Be the Business and Digital Boost – we hope to ensure hundreds of thousands of UK female business owners have the tools they need to succeed and reach their ambitious goals. Because this ambition remains strong in the UK, with female business owners largely optimistic about the future despite the multitude of challenges they are facing. Four in ten say they will grow their business in the next five years – compared to only a third of male business owners – and they’re also 35% less likely than men to say they plan to downsize or close the business.

But if we do not empower female entrepreneurs to access the tools and technology they need to grow, there is a risk this optimism could be misplaced. Support programmes that provide business owners with guidance and mentorship can help ensure this isn’t the case, allowing female entrepreneurs to not only survive but thrive in the months and years ahead.