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Will Netflix rectify the toxicity within Daphne and Simon's relationship in season 2?

Regé-Jean Page and Phoebe Dynevor in Netflix's "Bridgerton
Photo credit: Curtsey of Netflix

Editor's note: This article contains spoilers

Bridgerton fans can rejoice! Season two is officially happening. On January 21, Netflix announced it will renew it's steamy romance series, which left many of us feeling hot and bothered during quarantine. As exciting as that is, there's just one issue. Ok, there are actually several issues with the series, but let's start with Daphne and Simon's relationship.

There seems to be an issue within Hollywood and how it continues normalizing toxic and abusive relationships. Throughout the years, abuse has taken center stage in film and television, depicting these relationships in a positive light. Game of Thrones, Suicide Squad, Twilight, Gossip Girl, and Sex and the City all include some level abuse within their storyline.

Even the fantastical realm of Disney include high levels of toxicity in their films. Don't get me started on Beauty and the Beast. Our seemingly strong protagonist was kidnapped by a beast-like creature, imprisoned in his castle and mistreated by him. But hey, she falls in love with him and eventually makes him see the error of his ways so it's all good.

Seriously?

Whether it be full fledged rape, or some form of emotional abuse, Hollywood appears to have a fetish when it comes to toxic relationships, and we as the audience; gobble it up with childlike fascination. The latest installment of romanticized abuse comes in the form of Netflix's latest drama, Bridgerton.

Now, I won't undermine the series entirely because there are a few storylines one can resonate with. However, the relationship between Daphne Bridgerton (Phoebe Dynevor) and the Duke of Hastings, Simon Bassett (Regé-Jean Page) is nonexistent on that list. Daphne and Simon's relationship seemed problematic to begin with. After all, their relationship was a scheme maneuvered by Simon so Daphne could procure more suitors

Nothing based off lies can ever come to fruition.


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Red flags are often easy to spot. It's our disregard for those red flags that become an issue.

But that's not the worse part. As the series unfolds, you begin noticing problematic characteristics with Daphne, as well as Simon. For one, both Daphne and Simon are manipulative and narcissistic. A classic recipe for disaster.

Simon lies to Daphne about being impotent, knowing how important children are to her. Simon continues using the "pull out" method each time he and Daphne engage in intercourse, further tricking Daphne into believing his impotence. When Daphne eventually discovers Simon has been lying to her, she forces him to ejaculate inside her while having sex atop him, in a scene that can only constitute as rape.

During interviews, Dynevor told Bustle: "It's where Daphne really finds her power. It's a give and take in a way, like, 'You did this, so I did that,'" She goes on to say: "It's that murky thing in relationships of being in a marriage and [figuring out] what [is and isn't] consensual."

Ummmm, consent should never be "murky." That's why there's an issue with consent in the first place, because it continues to be unclear. When you have actresses like Dynevor condoning that uncertainty, it blurs the lines even more.

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Outspoken, spirited and independent, Eloise Bridgerton (played by Claudia Jessie) is a far more compelling character than all her siblings combined.

There are more, prime examples of how Daphne and Simon's relationship continues to be toxic. As if a rape scene wasn't justification enough, Simon continues gaslighting Daphne at every corner, continuously manipulating facts about his inability to bear children.

He deliberately ignores Daphne after fights, continually threatening to discontinue their marriage in an effort to avoid further conflict with her. Both the "silent treatment" and "gaslighting" are all forms of psychological and emotional manipulation.

Although this trend is nothing new in Hollywood, it doesn't change the fact these narratives are misguided. By romanticizing abuse, Hollywood is normalizing it in the process.

What frustrates me is how Daphne and Simon's relationship was interpreted to appear overall wholesome and romantic when it was anything but. Fans loved the series so much, it's been viewed in 63 million households in less than three weeks of its release. Listen, I enjoyed the show as much as the next fan, particularly Eloise Bridgerton's storyline, but we can't discount the toxic undertones of the series.

Women founders continue to come up against common challenges and biases

Written by Kelly Devine, Division President UK & Ireland, Mastercard

Starting a business may have historically been perceived as a man’s game, but this couldn’t be further from reality. Research shows women are actually more likely than men to actively choose to start their own business – often motivated by the desire to be their own boss or to have a better work-life balance and spend more time with their family.

The recently published Mastercard Index of Women Entrepreneurship 2021 found that in the category of 'Aspiration Driven Entrepreneurship’ – capturing those who actively choose to start their own business – women in the UK surpass men: 60% vs 56%. And Mastercard research from February 2022 found 10% of female business owners started their business in the past two years compared to 6% of men – meaning women were 67% more likely to have started a business during the pandemic.

Yet, there are common challenges that women founders continue to come up against - not least the gender imbalance in the household and long-held biases which are still prevalent.

In the UK, women are almost three times more likely to be balancing care and home commitments than men, and this was exacerbated during the pandemic as the additional barriers of school closures and lockdowns meant that the care time of dependents rose significantly on a day-to-day level for women. In addition, women were less likely to have access to a home office, greatly impacting the work they were able to accomplish when working from home was the only option.

It's also widely known that female business owners are still more likely to struggle to access funding for their business ideas. According to Dealroom, all-women founding teams received just 1.4% of the €23.7bn invested into UK start-ups in 2021, while all-male leadership teams have taken almost 90% of the available capital.

Without financial support, and when juggling significant time pressures both at home and at work, how can women grow their companies and #BreaktheBias (as this year’s International Women’s Day termed it)? What tools or support can save them time and money, and give them the headspace they need to focus on building their business?

With female owned businesses collectively estimating revenue growth of £120 billion over the next five years, solving this problem is bigger than supporting women – it’s about supporting the national economy.

Using tech to level the playing field

There are clearly societal issues at play that need to be resolved. But when we look at the rise in technology businesses during the pandemic, we can plainly see an alternative source of support critical for business growth: digital tools.

A third of female business owners say new technologies will be crucial to the success of their business in the future and one in five say it is the most important thing for business growth.

With new technology comes new ways to pay, create, and work. And yet there are barriers that prevent business owners accessing this technology. Women are significantly more likely to say they want to use more digital tools but don’t know what is best for their business and also more concerned about the security of digital tools.

When technology is adopted by businesses – whether using online accounting solutions or messenger services for communicating with staff – it saves them time, allows them to maintain and grow their customer base, and ultimately increases cost savings and profit.

By drastically improving the training and support that is available to women-owned business to access and utilise technology we will allow these businesses to grow and succeed. And we know there is demand for it.

Research done by the IFC and Dalberg shows that female entrepreneurs are more likely to invest time and money in business development. This includes product development, customer base expansion, and digital tools and training and there are plenty of services available offering this type of support – many of them for free.

One such programme is Strive UK – an initiative of the Mastercard Center for Inclusive Growth – which aims to reach 650,000 micro and small business owners across the UK and empower them with the tools they need to thrive in the digital economy through free guidance, helpful tools and one-to-one mentoring.

Working together with small business experts – Enterprise Nation, Be the Business and Digital Boost – we hope to ensure hundreds of thousands of UK female business owners have the tools they need to succeed and reach their ambitious goals. Because this ambition remains strong in the UK, with female business owners largely optimistic about the future despite the multitude of challenges they are facing. Four in ten say they will grow their business in the next five years – compared to only a third of male business owners – and they’re also 35% less likely than men to say they plan to downsize or close the business.

But if we do not empower female entrepreneurs to access the tools and technology they need to grow, there is a risk this optimism could be misplaced. Support programmes that provide business owners with guidance and mentorship can help ensure this isn’t the case, allowing female entrepreneurs to not only survive but thrive in the months and years ahead.