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How I plan on making my Thanksgiving of solitude a liberating experience

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For many, the holidays are a symbolism of unity, joy and family. It's the time of year when everyone puts aside their differences and comes together regardless of class, race, gender or sexual orientation. Speaking for myself, the holidays have always been my favorite time of year.

So much so, I begin listening to Christmas music in September. Yup, I'm that person. However, thanks to the global health crisis known as COVID-19, the holidays are proving to look vastly bleak this year. Especially if you're like me and plan on abandoning your initial travel plans to stay home.

Also, shout out to the individuals recently single this holiday season. The holidays will no doubt be interesting for us all. But spending the holidays alone doesn't have to be a desolate time of year, drowning your sorrows in a bottle of red, while blaring Joni Mitchell on repeat.

I mean, there's nothing wrong with that option. Lord knows I've done it a few times since this whole pandemic started.

However, there are more productive ways you can spend your solitude this holiday season that don't involve blacking out on your couch for the hundredth time. For me, I plan on embracing my emotions like a distant, dysfunctional relative. This year has definitely proven to be dismal, for more reasons than one.

It also welcomed a bundle of changes for me: both good and bad.

In late July, I received an incredible job opportunity that brought me to New York, a city I've always envisioned living. I ended up abandoning my familiar life in D.C., trading it in for an unexpectedly thrilling one in New York. Shortly after my move, I received news my estranged father passed away. And a little after that, my boyfriend of four years and me broke up. Mind you, this was someone I envisioned spending the rest of my life with, only to discover he wasn't on the same page.

Nothing represents the holidays quite like a broken heart. Am I right?

So, as you can see, I definitely have a lot of emotional baggage to unpack. But instead of shoving my feelings into a box, I plan on wearing them like a badge of honor. I suppose that's the upside to spending the holidays alone: no one around to see you at your lowest. Plus, you get to parade around your apartment in your pjs all day without receiving judgmental glares from your mother.

In all honesty, I'm actually glad I don't have to see my family this year. I get to deal with my breakup on my own terms without having to explain what went wrong. Because to be honest, not even I know the answer to that jarring question. This holiday season, I plan on playing by my own rules, which for me, involves creating new traditions.

I plan on creating my favorite side dishes come Thanksgiving Day, as well as Christmas. I also plan on baking my favorite holiday deserts, Zooming with close friends, watching all my favorite holiday movies and indulging in a few glasses of my favorite bottle of red.

Perhaps I'll even dance around my minuscule living room to Joni Mitchell while I'm at it.

There's something extremely liberating in solitude. It doesn't have to be this dismal experience. I think society has a way of shamming loneliness when it should be celebrated. If this year has taught us anything, it's that there's beauty in isolation. You can learn so much about yourself from spending time on your own. So that's what I intend to do.

And maybe have a good cry while I'm at it.

Women founders continue to come up against common challenges and biases

Written by Kelly Devine, Division President UK & Ireland, Mastercard

Starting a business may have historically been perceived as a man’s game, but this couldn’t be further from reality. Research shows women are actually more likely than men to actively choose to start their own business – often motivated by the desire to be their own boss or to have a better work-life balance and spend more time with their family.

The recently published Mastercard Index of Women Entrepreneurship 2021 found that in the category of 'Aspiration Driven Entrepreneurship’ – capturing those who actively choose to start their own business – women in the UK surpass men: 60% vs 56%. And Mastercard research from February 2022 found 10% of female business owners started their business in the past two years compared to 6% of men – meaning women were 67% more likely to have started a business during the pandemic.

Yet, there are common challenges that women founders continue to come up against - not least the gender imbalance in the household and long-held biases which are still prevalent.

In the UK, women are almost three times more likely to be balancing care and home commitments than men, and this was exacerbated during the pandemic as the additional barriers of school closures and lockdowns meant that the care time of dependents rose significantly on a day-to-day level for women. In addition, women were less likely to have access to a home office, greatly impacting the work they were able to accomplish when working from home was the only option.

It's also widely known that female business owners are still more likely to struggle to access funding for their business ideas. According to Dealroom, all-women founding teams received just 1.4% of the €23.7bn invested into UK start-ups in 2021, while all-male leadership teams have taken almost 90% of the available capital.

Without financial support, and when juggling significant time pressures both at home and at work, how can women grow their companies and #BreaktheBias (as this year’s International Women’s Day termed it)? What tools or support can save them time and money, and give them the headspace they need to focus on building their business?

With female owned businesses collectively estimating revenue growth of £120 billion over the next five years, solving this problem is bigger than supporting women – it’s about supporting the national economy.

Using tech to level the playing field

There are clearly societal issues at play that need to be resolved. But when we look at the rise in technology businesses during the pandemic, we can plainly see an alternative source of support critical for business growth: digital tools.

A third of female business owners say new technologies will be crucial to the success of their business in the future and one in five say it is the most important thing for business growth.

With new technology comes new ways to pay, create, and work. And yet there are barriers that prevent business owners accessing this technology. Women are significantly more likely to say they want to use more digital tools but don’t know what is best for their business and also more concerned about the security of digital tools.

When technology is adopted by businesses – whether using online accounting solutions or messenger services for communicating with staff – it saves them time, allows them to maintain and grow their customer base, and ultimately increases cost savings and profit.

By drastically improving the training and support that is available to women-owned business to access and utilise technology we will allow these businesses to grow and succeed. And we know there is demand for it.

Research done by the IFC and Dalberg shows that female entrepreneurs are more likely to invest time and money in business development. This includes product development, customer base expansion, and digital tools and training and there are plenty of services available offering this type of support – many of them for free.

One such programme is Strive UK – an initiative of the Mastercard Center for Inclusive Growth – which aims to reach 650,000 micro and small business owners across the UK and empower them with the tools they need to thrive in the digital economy through free guidance, helpful tools and one-to-one mentoring.

Working together with small business experts – Enterprise Nation, Be the Business and Digital Boost – we hope to ensure hundreds of thousands of UK female business owners have the tools they need to succeed and reach their ambitious goals. Because this ambition remains strong in the UK, with female business owners largely optimistic about the future despite the multitude of challenges they are facing. Four in ten say they will grow their business in the next five years – compared to only a third of male business owners – and they’re also 35% less likely than men to say they plan to downsize or close the business.

But if we do not empower female entrepreneurs to access the tools and technology they need to grow, there is a risk this optimism could be misplaced. Support programmes that provide business owners with guidance and mentorship can help ensure this isn’t the case, allowing female entrepreneurs to not only survive but thrive in the months and years ahead.