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Why the real scandal of the “outed” New York City EMT worker goes beyond sex work

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Many of us know that OnlyFans exploded in popularity during the pandemic. As a content subscription-based platform that allows influencers and other creators to monetize what they put on the platform, OnlyFans is primarily used by people who work in the sex industry. They post racy content on their feeds in exchange for a monthly subscription fee that they set for themselves.

One of those people happened to be Lauren Kwei, a 23-year-old paramedic based in New York City who posted on the platform to supplement her current income.

Many Americans are juggling more than one job to sustain themselves, especially given the dire financial circumstances people have faced this year.

I feel not only should she be celebrated for not giving up, but better yet people should redirect their critical energy to instead understand why some healthcare workers need to hold more than one job during the pandemic.

The New York Post, who initially wrote about Kwei, revealed photos, social media handles, and the personal details about her job. After the article was published, Kwei explained in comments from her GoFundMe that she asked the reporter to anonymize her because she felt that the article could put her safety and job in jeopardy. Unfortunately, she is now dealing with the very thing she was worried about from the beginning: the potential loss of a job and threats to her safety.

"When [reporter] first "interviewed" me, he did not tell me what this was about until after I disclosed most of my background. He did not include in his article that I started crying on the phone when he finally did tell me what he was inquiring about. He did not include that he played this "friendly guy" reporter who just wanted to get MY side of the story since ya know, they were gonna run it anyway, with or without my input."

It's instances like this that make people so distrusting of the media.

Her comment continues to add context about where she comes from, her journey of getting through paramedic school while supporting herself with many minimum-wage jobs, and who she is as a person. She also noted how difficult life has been working as an EMT in New York City during the pandemic.

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We must realize that again, she didn't owe us anything by sharing these aspects of her life, nor should it be necessary for people to criticize her. Shaming sex workers is definitely violent, and no one should have to defend themselves as human beings who deserve respect.

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When a male celebrity leaks a nude, it's just another day in Hollywood. When a female does it, she's ostracized.

The mere fact that she shared this information about herself is a gift to the community. She's using the very destructive spotlight placed on her to ask for support for medical professionals during this trying time.

She also brought attention to mental health among frontline healthcare workers, saying that they're reusing months old PPE, refused hazard pay, and watching their fellow healthcare workers die right before their eyes from COVID and suicide.

Towards the end of her post, she provided information about the Emergency Medical Services Public Advocacy Council to learn how to help people serving as EMTs.

I have a lot of respect for people who take a stance like this because I think about my mom, who is also on the front line as a nurse, and the many heartbreaking things she had witnessed on her unit due to the state of the world.

In highlighting the medical community's needs when society needs their help more than ever, it has become evident that the real scandal is not the one that the Post conjured up.

To be honest, that's not even where the focus needs to be. There is nothing wrong with having an OnlyFans or being a sex worker. The real issue here is that an emergency health care worker who is a servant to the community can't afford to have a proper livelihood from one income alone, even though they have a significant role in helping others during these frightening times.

Despite this, we must always keep this sentiment in the back of our heads: anybody that works multiple jobs to make ends meet has the right to privacy. Shaming people for that is strange, especially if they are not mentally or physically harming anyone. Unless they have poor ethics and are hell-bent on ruining someone's life, a woman's at that is when it becomes concerning.

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Women founders continue to come up against common challenges and biases

Written by Kelly Devine, Division President UK & Ireland, Mastercard

Starting a business may have historically been perceived as a man’s game, but this couldn’t be further from reality. Research shows women are actually more likely than men to actively choose to start their own business – often motivated by the desire to be their own boss or to have a better work-life balance and spend more time with their family.

The recently published Mastercard Index of Women Entrepreneurship 2021 found that in the category of 'Aspiration Driven Entrepreneurship’ – capturing those who actively choose to start their own business – women in the UK surpass men: 60% vs 56%. And Mastercard research from February 2022 found 10% of female business owners started their business in the past two years compared to 6% of men – meaning women were 67% more likely to have started a business during the pandemic.

Yet, there are common challenges that women founders continue to come up against - not least the gender imbalance in the household and long-held biases which are still prevalent.

In the UK, women are almost three times more likely to be balancing care and home commitments than men, and this was exacerbated during the pandemic as the additional barriers of school closures and lockdowns meant that the care time of dependents rose significantly on a day-to-day level for women. In addition, women were less likely to have access to a home office, greatly impacting the work they were able to accomplish when working from home was the only option.

It's also widely known that female business owners are still more likely to struggle to access funding for their business ideas. According to Dealroom, all-women founding teams received just 1.4% of the €23.7bn invested into UK start-ups in 2021, while all-male leadership teams have taken almost 90% of the available capital.

Without financial support, and when juggling significant time pressures both at home and at work, how can women grow their companies and #BreaktheBias (as this year’s International Women’s Day termed it)? What tools or support can save them time and money, and give them the headspace they need to focus on building their business?

With female owned businesses collectively estimating revenue growth of £120 billion over the next five years, solving this problem is bigger than supporting women – it’s about supporting the national economy.

Using tech to level the playing field

There are clearly societal issues at play that need to be resolved. But when we look at the rise in technology businesses during the pandemic, we can plainly see an alternative source of support critical for business growth: digital tools.

A third of female business owners say new technologies will be crucial to the success of their business in the future and one in five say it is the most important thing for business growth.

With new technology comes new ways to pay, create, and work. And yet there are barriers that prevent business owners accessing this technology. Women are significantly more likely to say they want to use more digital tools but don’t know what is best for their business and also more concerned about the security of digital tools.

When technology is adopted by businesses – whether using online accounting solutions or messenger services for communicating with staff – it saves them time, allows them to maintain and grow their customer base, and ultimately increases cost savings and profit.

By drastically improving the training and support that is available to women-owned business to access and utilise technology we will allow these businesses to grow and succeed. And we know there is demand for it.

Research done by the IFC and Dalberg shows that female entrepreneurs are more likely to invest time and money in business development. This includes product development, customer base expansion, and digital tools and training and there are plenty of services available offering this type of support – many of them for free.

One such programme is Strive UK – an initiative of the Mastercard Center for Inclusive Growth – which aims to reach 650,000 micro and small business owners across the UK and empower them with the tools they need to thrive in the digital economy through free guidance, helpful tools and one-to-one mentoring.

Working together with small business experts – Enterprise Nation, Be the Business and Digital Boost – we hope to ensure hundreds of thousands of UK female business owners have the tools they need to succeed and reach their ambitious goals. Because this ambition remains strong in the UK, with female business owners largely optimistic about the future despite the multitude of challenges they are facing. Four in ten say they will grow their business in the next five years – compared to only a third of male business owners – and they’re also 35% less likely than men to say they plan to downsize or close the business.

But if we do not empower female entrepreneurs to access the tools and technology they need to grow, there is a risk this optimism could be misplaced. Support programmes that provide business owners with guidance and mentorship can help ensure this isn’t the case, allowing female entrepreneurs to not only survive but thrive in the months and years ahead.